Reagan (and my) sleep

I am feeling better but still tired from fighting the breast infection. I have a few more days of antibiotics and I am trying to rest but that is hard to do around here:0) Reagan is still quite fussy in the evenings, does not want to be put down and will not let her dad be the one to sooth her. She is fine with Craig when she is happy and awake but when it is bed time or she is just cranky she wants nothing to do with him. She screams her head off and only I can calm her back down. It is very annoying because I get NO breaks from her in the evenings. Last Wed when I was feeling very poor from the mastitis she was being impossible for Craig. I finally took her but she was so worked up that she was being tough for me and I was too sick to deal. I ended up putting her in her swing still crying since she was crying no matter what I tried. She only cried hard for a few minutes and then fussed for about 30 and finally fell asleep. She slept quite good that night and I was hoping that we could continue trying that but it has not worked (I will only let her cry a few minutes without soothing her at this age). And since then she is harder to put down during the day. She is still napping well once she goes down, it just takes a couple of tries where as before she would go down sleepy but awake on the first try.

I have fallen back into the bad habit of letting her sleep with me in the guest bed. This, of course, is adding to the problem but after trying to put her down unsuccessfully 4 or 5 times I get so tired! As an example: yesterday I was exhausted by 7pm; had to sooth her for an hour or so; then she wanted to be awake and play from about 8-9pm (which is pretty typical for her); then she needed to be soothed again; then she would fall asleep in my arms but scream as soon as I put her down or shortly after; and after 5 failed attempts it was 12am and I gave up. After getting her calmed down, once again, she slept happily next to me in bed. Sneaky little girl!! Soothing her without picking her up rarely works and even when it does it only lasts a few minutes. Super frustrating, especially when there is nothing Craig can do to help me. She is 3 mo old now so we will hold out 1 more month before teaching her to fall asleep on her own by letting her 'cry it out'. I am absolutely dreading this. It is no fun for anyone but it sure worked with Katya. I am not anti-bed sharing but I want to teach my baby healthy sleep habits now, that will set the stage for toddler-hood and beyond. Love to all, Brenda